We are now in the third part of our discussion regarding Dr Young’s work. This is a rather obvious step, but we can dive a little deeper. Your goal must be important to you. Sounds obvious, right? However, when Dr. Young looked at individuals who had lost a spouse or a close family member, different outcomes occurred when there was a lack of important hobbies or social connections, outside of the deceased family member.
When we lose someone dear to us and we lose our interest in all that we do, we too begin to shut down. Despair sets in, and the body literally begins to shut down and die. It will always be difficult when our loved ones pass—but the key is that make concerted efforts to continually move forward, and invite healthy and productive habits into our lives.
Dr. Young’s point here, is to figure out what is important to us. Do we really want to accomplish the goal we are after—or is it simply something that would be nice for us to do? No one can answer that question except for ourselves. You do not need to be motivated. Dr. Young stresses that in this chapter because many assume they are either motivated or unmotivated. The truth is that that the goal may not have been that important in the first place.
Money, social relationships and health, continue to rank at the top of people’s list of highest importance. After basic needs have been met, studies show that the importance of money does not increase but our need to be connected to other people does. You decide for yourself what is important, but never underestimate the value in relationships and good health.
Sincerely,
Donny Mateaki
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